Fathers Rights Supporters Help End Status Quo Against Fathers In Minnesota
A very important and highly improved piece of family law legislation is sitting right in front of the Minnesota Legislature in 2012 … indeed, it is a real opportunity to work on a course correction that can begin to reverse and amend some of the wrong, one sided choices made by the illustrious family law societal engineers of past decades!
If the Minnesota legislators of 2012 can realize the need for a more father friendly approach to parenting and custody in divorce, they can markedly reduce state resource expenditures earmarked for resolution of family law disputes. With a little time and education the divorcing parents will learn to have a more appropriate expectation of what they ‘ can get ‘ by hard core strategy and having the “best lawyer”. Everybody wins…except for greedy divorce lawyers perhaps!
Once the change being considered by the legislators settles in, the kids can expect and will get a less acrimonious family split. They will lose much of the normal fear and hurt that comes with the diminished prospect of losing a parent, a fairly common and debilitating legacy of the system so in need of change. The emotional load of a child caught in a divorce will lessen dramatically as will the range of anti social behaviors that are a proven result of the status quo model where the father is side lined for all practical purposes, becoming a veritable outlaw in the eyes of the child. Here is how co-parenting looks from a child’s perspective…
Fathers Rights Means The Power Trip Is Over …
and Children Are # 1!
As for women who still cling to the virtual promises of the status quo model and look forward to the dual role of a virtual ATM machine and that of a maniacal dictator on an eternal quest for vengeance, they need to but understand that ‘ nothing good lasts for ever ‘, and then go read the popular book, Who Moved My Cheese? to help themselves adjust!
As for divorce lawyers who champion their often sadistic role in the status quo, they too should read Who Moved My Cheese?! And quit trying to profit from the pain of broken families and ruined homes under the faux pretext of serving as the pillar of society while innocently resolving societal disputes!
One of the most myopic, insidious, and destructive assaults that can occur against the critical role of either parent, whether or not in a joint parenting agreement. To undermine the love, affection, companionship and authority of the other parent is unconscionable…given the gravity of such sadistic sociopathic behavior, it is a crime much like parental abduction. The continuation of hatred after separation that rises to the level of any form of alienation should subject the offending party to a criminal charge and serious repercussions against future parenting role.
PAS Hurts Every One, Children, Parent, Relatives, and Society – Fathers Rights
Parental alienation often begins in the marriage before there is ever a separation. It can take the form of ridicule, humiliation, daily rejection of a parent, etc.,i.e., one or sometimes both parents engage in outbreaks of hostility in the home that subtly teach children to learn the game, to take sides, even to participate in every aspect of this devastating behavior on one side of the struggle or the other.
But It Takes An Early Understanding of The Issues, Exercise of Considerable Self Control, and A Refusal To Engage In Further Conflict!
When a father becomes aware of any aspect of this kind of early pre-divorce behavior, it is time for serious self assessment, a personal behavior adjustment as needed, a call for total withdrawal from the behavior by both parties, careful documentation (quietly see your attorney on how best to handle the documentation strategy and even a strategy for how to select an appropriate counselor and how to deal with him or her.)
How a father conducts himself a from this stage forward can make or break how divorce issues are eventually resolved … and that bears some critical thinking. Child visitation, child custody, joint custody child support, and co-parenting are all at stake!
Whatever you do, get yourself your own personal copy of Dads Can Win, love your children, and get serious about preventing or stopping parental alienation.
Non custodial fathers rights groups and individuals fighting for a legitimate and functional role in their children’s lives, of course, have always known that whatever the struggles and their respective issues, a glass ceiling, whether subtle, strategic, or overt, that exists between rhetoric and achievable action, is the defacto anti father establishment.
The Platitudes proclaimed by the courts, the various Bar Associations, their minions ( attorneys, legislators, and, sadly, even law enforcement), notwithstanding, and of course the hysterical and often dishonest shrieking of the ex-wives involved have been allowed to distort justice and cause a blind eye to be cast to the point that this became the status quo and hence the defacto anti-father establishment for many decades.
The Pain Is Real! - Fathers Rights
Pain from judicial prejudice, gender bias, parental alienation has consequences and the harm to society has been far reaching, detrimental, and well known. For example, were you aware the extent to which fatherless homes have affected the country to its grave detriment?
Dads Can Win is going to continue to say this until every body gets it. The nation is bankrupt. It must quit spending a trillion dollars per year supporting non marriage while allowing the above problems to grow and the terrible consequences to continue.
Transfer the massive support for non-marriage to support for the marriage and family, the cornerstone of any civilized society, rubbish from social engineers of the day notwithstanding. The country must continue to actively legislate, adjudicate and administer toward joint parenting, custody, and visitation. This will set the stage to begin remedying many of the societal issues identified above.
Fathers Rights Progress!
The truth is wise judges and law makers are beginning to awaken to the necessity of remedying these issues. Those with joint custody child support issues and all other father rights issues need to:
A. Increase their vigilance, and
B. Let fathers involved in these kinds of family law matters know that things are changing and don’t despair. Turn any anger in to helping with a genuine acceptable solution — rights intact.
C. Every father should access their own copy of Dads Can Win at http://dads-can win.com. It can save you hassles, stress, save you money, and provide you with invaluable facts, strategy ideas, options and resources you can’t afford to be with out! It might even help you avoid a loss of non custodial fathers rights, avoid a costly fight and trauma to children a better chance to successfully join in co-parenting, joint custody child support, and shared visitation.
D. Finally, and this is very important for non custodial fathers! If you want a meaningful relationship with your children, then act like a quality parent in the way you conduct yourself all the time and especially during any
hassle…be a responsible citizen in all that you do — show that you have the character, means, and interest, and stability to make an exemplary parent with full custody. Any legal battles for fathers rights that ensue should be easier for you if you have prepared in this way. Remember, from a practical standpoint, every dad’s behavior can make a difference for the next dad!
Visitation Rights …
Fathers and Grandparents Watch This! Things are beginning to heat up in this area. See this happy picture at left? If you click on the Flickr link below the picture, you would see that it is a candid glimpse into the way it should be. And, it is also a spontaneous glimpse into a part of civilization that is sadly missing from more and more homes, particularly in ‘ developed countries ‘.
This issue of grandparents visitation has two sides. Each requires love and respect, i.e., mutual love and respect. The law alone is powerless to make it happen for anyone but the lawyers involved and which ever party gets the nod from the law on such issues when in conflict.
It has gotten so bad in some of the more ‘ advanced societies ‘, even where a supposed relationship without rancor exists, that they resort to sending surrogate visitors to visit the elderly grandparents rather than making a genuine visit at least now and then. As always, it is the kids and the society that pay the price.
Anyway, let’s see what is happening with child visitation for grand parents in Georgia!
Perhaps when this actually becomes law — even before, the .gov should get creative and find ways that will help society and help develop programs and incentives for dysfunctional families to get their act together, rather than duke it out in court, so the importance of marriage and family become central to our policies once again. Is it possible that the leading individual policy makers have been deliberately undermining family? Do you think it is just random events that just happen to be devastating with no real design to it, i.e., policy makers with insufficient insight and wisdom who just follow equally willy nilly trend setters? Is the institution of marriage and family really under a sustained attack?
Dads Can Win Visitation Rights
Even as grandparents continue to rebuild access to their grand children through visitation, non custodial parent rights to child visitation as well as fathers rights custody are receiving more equal treatment in the law, courts, and public policy. This equality is far from just given to Dads, they must fight for it! Dads Can Win is more than 250 power packed information, state by state detail, strategy suggestions, and critical resources you will need with or without a lawyer!
Let’s play ‘ Devil’s Advocate ‘ for a moment. This is an important exercise in any situation in life whether or not a family law matter. First, understand that family law matters, from a technical standpoint at least, are beginning to move back toward a balance. Whereas they have been out of balance for many decades. Second, from a practical perspective, it remains difficult … very difficult to sustain a successful fight to remain involved with your children if the children’s mother is dead set on getting you out of their collective lives.
For decades, the facts in millions of divorce cases demonstrate clearly how heavily the establishment society has oppressed unmarried fathers rights whether joint custody child support or visitation. Looking for a solution, as the politicians began in earnest to dismantle, or attempt to dismantle, what they frequently referred to as the ‘ welfare state ‘ which was blamed for bankrupting the treasury, they decided to get more involved in the collection of child support. The various governments at all levels began to make it very rough on their new scapegoat — non custodial fathers. This seemed to peak after the various ‘ Deadbeat Dads ‘ PR campaigns … remember the milk cartons and pizza boxes and the highly televised issuance of arrest warrants, arrest round ups pushed nationwide to the very ugly detriment of fathers struggling with a system that was inherently and grossly unfair?
While remnants of this old enforcement mentality remain, there seems to be a rush to ‘ remedy ‘ some of the legal and societal excesses. Why? Albeit a good thing, but why? Do the policy makers across the land suddenly have a conscience? Does the continued trillion dollar annual support for non-marriage indicate a new found desire to reinstate the marriage and the family as inviolable corner stones of society because social engineering lawyers, judges, and politicians realize what a mess they have made? See www.humanevents.com/article.php?id=37591 and unein.com/radio/Phyllis-Schlafly-p20553 Or, are they getting too much money and power resulting from their mistakes?
The Devil’s Advocate might well ask, ‘ What’s in it for Dad’s who try to do the right thing? Undying love and respect of their children? Some renewed focus nationally and locally on what was once deemed the basis for civilized society, namely marriage and family — something most Dads still believe in, if they think about it? Or, are fathers looking at merely another collection tactic besides the proverbial ‘ stick’?
How To Win Fathers Rights: Custody, Visitation, and Support Issues …
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Fathers Visitation Rights Matter! In fact, so do fathers custody rights! Joint custody and co-parenting would seem to be the ideal for which the family law courts and the attorneys should strive. Little by little, we are seeing that the family law courts, even internationally, are beginning to understand and find ways to fit the modern family circumstance and reduce the level of conflict in these sad cases.
There is a lot of question and concern re the wisdom of this statement. They usually centering around the fear that the courts can’t succeed with this lofty ideal, and frankly, the amount of attorneys’ fees that might be lost if both sides could be set up to achieve a workable level of cooperation from early on.
Imagine, if the parents could suddenly become more mature and the lawyers less greedy. Exhausting the financial resource of one or both sides in a family law matter does not exactly suffice as an acceptable way of performing professional conflict resolution!
Children first must be the genuine and sole mantra of all parties in all family law court matters with heavy sanctions on those who fail to honor this objective in an efficient and convincing manner.
Indiana is revising guidlines for parents’ ‘visitation’ rightsEvansville Courier & PressThere the term “parenting time” is used instead of “visitation” to emphasize the importance of both parents’ roles in their children’s lives. “The ultimate g …
Indiana’s recent move to improve and modernize its guidelines designed to deal with the anachronistic visitation concept for both divorcing parents should be applauded by all. Their new approach appears to be an attempt to put children first when it comes to these issues.
It even appears that it might provide a framework for far less conflict than is the experience to date. Perhaps the working context for family law matters should be closer to a counseling model and less that of a traditional adversarial model. Perhaps the showing of conciliatory attitude and strategy could be the basis for the court’s recognition and conflict resolution imposition when it was required to break a stalemate.
Fathers Visitation Rights Begin a Visionary Change
Perhaps visitation right, per se, might become a thing of the past, giving way to more cooperation, in time! Parental cooperation and attitude reflecting the court’s desire to achieve a working co-parenting and visitation time arrangement might be rewarded instead of victory in an adversarial setting.
Trauma to the children could be greatly reduced, parental resources not so exhausted, and the courts might not be so overworked as an ultimate result of the changes being made, as a beginning, today.